Why Real Love Is Hard Work

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A month into our relationship, my now-husband asked me, “Where do you see yourself in five years?” I didn’t hesitate. “As a nun in a third-world country doing missionary work,” I said. “Interesting.” Somewhere around that time I also told him it would be five years before I slept with him. It was the quickest […]

7 Ways to Get Over an Infatuation


“Bewitched, bothered, and bewildered am I” wrote US songwriter Lorenz Hart about the feeling of infatuation. It’s blissful and euphoric, as we all know. But it’s also addicting, messy and blinding. Without careful monitoring, its wild wind can rage through your life leaving you much like the lyrics of a country song: without a wife, […]

8 Health Benefits of Kissing


In a recent feature on the website, Upwave, Valerie Reiss lists eight health benefits of kissing: Kissing helps reduce blood pressure Kissing zaps cramps and headaches Kissing fights cavities Kissing amps up your happy hormones Kissing burns calories Kissing boosts self-esteem Kissing can give you a facelift (kind of) Kissing is a barometer for sexual […]

12 Ways to Mend a Broken Heart

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Bess Myerson once wrote that “to fall in love is awfully simple, but to fall out of love is simply awful,” especially if you are the one who wanted the relationship to last. But to stop loving isn’t an option. Author Henri Nouwen writes, “When those you love deeply reject you, leave you, or die, […]

When Someone You Love is Bipolar

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The following interview with Dr. Cynthia Last and her husband, authors of  “When Someone You Love Is Bipolar,” is reprinted with permission of Guilford Press.   1. Dr. Last, in your book you candidly admit that although you were originally diagnosed with bipolar disorder in your early 30s, you didn’t accept it until 10 years […]

4 Tips for a Happy Marriage


In his book, “How to Love,” bestselling author and psychiatrist Gordon Livingston offers 37 chapters of advice for a happy marriage. Having myself compiled stories, excerpts, and insights from hundreds of couples—famous and not—in my book with co-editor Mike Leach, “I Like Being Married,” I recognized the wisdom in his simple suggestions. I chose four […]

Is It Your Marriage or Your Depression?

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“It often seems that I could fill a practice with cases of falling out of love, so common is the complaint,” writes bestselling author and renowned psychiatrist Peter D. Kramer in book, “Should You Leave?” He chronicles dozens of cases based on the stories of his patients and arrives at this little mantra: “Depression causes […]

8 Ways to Stop Holding a Grudge


I loved these bits of advice from Beliefnet’s Renita Williams. Click here to see the original gallery. We all have experienced hurt and pain in our lives. Sometimes we are exposed to experiences so painful that they leave marks that are difficult to heal-especially if we feel somone has wronged us or harmed us. 1. […]