Staying Together (Despite the Kids)

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Awhile back my friend Michelle said to the congregation at her husband’s funeral service: “He never spoke an unkind word to me.”   Another girlfriend and I looked at each other, jaws dropped. And then she whispered, “They didn’t have kids.” We nodded and felt better about ourselves. But a growing body of research confirms […]

8 Survival Tips for the Spouse of a Terminally Ill Person: An Interview With Owen Surman, M.D.

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Today I have the honor of interviewing Owen Stanley Surman, M.D., a practicing hospital psychiatrist known internationally for his work on psychiatric and ethical aspects of solid organ transplantation. Following the death of his wife, Dr. Surman devoted six years to writer a memoir, “The Wrong Side of an Illness: A Doctor’s Love Story,” which […]

Stay With the Loneliness

According to John Bradshaw, bestselling author of Home Coming, one of the final steps in healing our wounded inner child is learning how to stay with our loneliness: not running away from it or rushing into some activity as a kind of anesthesia. God, does that hurt: staying with the pain of unfulfilled love, expectations, […]

How to Break Your Addiction to a Person

In his book, “How to Break Your Addiction to a Person,” Howard Halpern first explains what an addictive relationship is, then gives guidelines for recognizing if you’re involved in one. Then, he offers several techniques on how to end an unhealthy relationship (or an emotional affair).   I’ve compiled and adapted all of his suggestions […]