Self-Compassion

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom” wrote Anais Nin. For me that day happened last July. I was vacationing with my family in Corolla, South Carolina, when all the pain I had been feeling for the last year bubbled to...
“There is no coming to consciousness without pain,” remarked the Swiss psychiatrist and psychoanalyst Carl Jung. “People will do anything, no matter how absurd, in order to avoid facing their own Soul. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.” Having started therapy a month ago, I...
In his book Going to Pieces Without Falling Apart, psychiatrist Mark Epstein tells the story of his first roommate in college, a guy named Steve, who signed up for the five hardest courses at Harvard and became obsessed with being the perfect student. He stopped playing his guitar, going out with friends, even stopped bathing....
Every era has its stressors. But our times can feel especially tumultuous. A 2017 American Psychological Association (APA) poll found that nearly two-thirds of Americans find that the future of the nation is a significant source of stress. And, according to a March 2018 national survey by the APA, more Americans feel anxious than they...
You would think after two decades of therapy I would be on my way to a strong sense of self and know how to apply a variety of cognitive-behavioral techniques to quiet the voices of self-doubt, that I could easily recognize when remnants of childhood crap are trying to sabotage something good in my life....
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