images-1I am at the post office with two boxes of heavy books. I can send them book rate, which is far cheaper than first class if there is no personal correspondence inside the box.

“Is there a letter or any form of personal correspondence in any of these boxes?” the post office attendant behind the counter asks me. I hesitate. I know full well that there is small note sitting on the top book. I even know which stationery I used. I flounder. “Who cares?” “What an idiotic rule.”

“No,” I said. I lied. It was a white lie to save me ten bucks or more. But it was a lie.

Is it okay to tell a white lie? Does everyone do it? A recent paper published in Human Communication Research found that many people are honest most of the time, that many are honest about their lying, and that some lie a lot.

Rony Halevy, Bruno Verschuere (University of Amsterdam), and Shaul Shalvi (Ben-Gurion University), surveyed 527 people to find out how often they had lied over the past 24 hours. 41% of the respondents indicated that they had not lied at all, whereas just 5% turned out to be accountable for 40% of all of the lies told.

To find out whether the respondents were honest about the frequency of their lying, they were invited to take part in an additional lab test. They were asked to roll dice and received a sum of money depending on the number they reported having rolled. Because the researchers were unable to see the actual numbers rolled, participants were free to cheat and report higher numbers. Participants who had already admitted to lying more frequently also had higher winnings in this dice test, indicating that participants, who said they lie often, did indeed lie often. Statistically, their scores were so implausible that they are likely to have lied about the numbers they rolled, rather enjoying a series of lucky rolls.

“The fact that participants who indicated lying often actually did lie more often in the dice test demonstrates that they were honest about their dishonesty,” said Verschuere. It may be that frequent liars show more psychopathic traits and therefore have no trouble admitting to lying frequently.”


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  1. B&N

    This is another great topic. White lies I feel is told out of fear or to convince.

    Some liars are have are highly developed artfully skill. This group of liars are are the dangerous ones they use there lies hurt & harm someone.

    Liers who fail polygraph test but still maintained innocent often get exposed later.

    Liars hurt there siblings, cousins, closest friends, spouse, inlaws, parents & even there little children.

    How does one stop lairs?
    Do liars know the damage they do to them self & others?
    Can lying be linked to depression or mental illness?
    Is lying a bad habit or an inborn?
    Is lying a artful skill?
    Could lying be related to people suffering from Panic attack?

    Polygraph test is almost 100 percent accurate. Do you think this should be publicly known? And could at least put some fear being exposed.