I was furious and hurt.
Because it was just one of many insensitive comments that seem to imply that I was causing my illness.
So when a woman in the online depression support group that I moderate recently said that HER THERAPIST asked her that same question, I immediately consoled her and told her that I thought that was WRONG, WRONG, WRONG for a mental health professional to ask that.
But my opinion wasn’t unanimous in the group.
Some thought the question was reasonable to ask, as it prods a person to the appropriate steps of action.
One woman cited a blog post called, “It’s Easier to Stay Depressed?” which argued that it takes an incredible amount of drive and energy to do all the things a person has to do to get well, and sometimes it’s easier to stay depressed. Another person confessed to hiding behind her illness at times and thought we all do to a certain extent.