10 Ways to Beat Insomnia Naturally


A reader recently asked me to give some tips for beating insomnia, so I thought I’d repost this piece. A few years ago, I experienced a terrible case of insomnia. I took the sleeping drug Lunesta, which afforded me a few wonderful nights’ sleep, until I realized it substantially increased my anxiety during the day. […]

How to Build Hope


Most people think finding the right combination of medicine is the most important requirement to recover from depression. But it’s not. Nor is working with a therapist and employing cognitive behavioral strategies, although they both can be very helpful. Using mindfulness techniques, eating the right diet, getting regular sleep, and reaching out to a support network? […]

Why Do I Have Panic Attacks?

Anyone who has ever had a panic attack knows how frightening they can be. Like many others, I  thought I was dying the first time I experienced one. Heart palpitations and a shortness of breath make you think you’re having a heart attack and should call 911. Understanding what’s going on in your body and mind is critical […]

The Redemptive Power of Love


I don’t think I’m alone in being inspired by the powerful sermon delivered by Rev. Michael Curry during the Royal wedding of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle this morning. He reminded the millions of people who tuned in to watch the historical event of the redemptive power of love to heal, to empower, to transform. […]

21 Inspiring Quotes on Change


Change is difficult for all creatures. I’m reminded of that every time I put my dogs in the car. It’s especially hard for homo sapiens who have fragile limbic systems (the emotional center of our brains). Swapping what we know for something unfamiliar provokes all kinds of anxiety, compounded by the grief of letting go […]

On Quieting the Inner Tyrant


You would think after two decades of therapy I would be on my way to a strong sense of self and know how to apply a variety of cognitive-behavioral techniques to quiet the voices of self-doubt, that I could easily recognize when remnants of childhood crap are trying to sabotage something good in my life. […]

9 Ways Humor Heals


Of all my tools to combat depression and negativity, humor is by far the most fun. And just like mastering the craft of writing, I’m finding that the longer I practice laughing at life–and especially it’s frustrations–the better I become at it, and the more situations and conversations and complications I can place into that […]

Be You Very Well

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For a good year or so of my life, I wanted to be another blogger, a woman who is exceptionally good at writing about happiness. I envied her tremendous online following and book success, but I was also jealous of her subject matter. I toyed with the idea of recasting myself as a happiness expert instead […]

Struggle With, Not Victory Over

It’s tempting for anyone who writes about depression and anxiety to preach from hindsight, after he has “recovered” from his mood disorder: “This is what I did to free myself from addiction” … “Here are five steps to instant weight loss” … “These are eight techniques to cure anxiety.” If you look at the list […]