Give Up on Being Perfect

In “Being Perfect,” bestselling author Anna Quindlen advises high school and college graduates to work from a clean slate … to give up on being perfect. I keep the gift book beside my computer (with Miguel Ruiz’s “The Four Agreements” and many other books, information hoarder that I am) as a constant reminder to be […]

The Cracked Pot

I love this tale from India, retold here by Mary Dessein. What a beautiful way of thinking about our illness, frustrating life situations, or crosses we bear. A water-bearer carries two large pots on a yoke across his shoulders up the hill from the river to his master’s house each day. One has a crack […]

What Is Your Epiphany?


An epiphany can mean several things: an “Aha!” moment after relentless searching and study, the first time you see something (or someone) in its natural form, or the Christian feast commemorating the visit and adoration of the Christ Child by the three wise men. As a child, I imagined I was a Wise Girl (not […]

Words of Hope for Despair

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I wrote this response to Beyond Blue reader Kate after reading her despondent comments, but I wanted to republish them in case any of you are in a similar state. You say that no one could understand your despair. I have no doubt you feel completely alone in your battle. But I’m pretty sure a […]

Baboushka: A Russian Folk Tale

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From “A Classic Christmas,” a compilation of beautiful reflections, meditations, and scripture passages.  This story replaces the Saint Nicholas Legend in Russia and has been told for many years. It was the night that Jesus was born in Bethlehem. In a faraway country an old woman named Baboushka sat in her snug little house by […]

The Memorare

I have prayed the Memorare every day since my mom (and others) told me to go to Mary with my depression. It’s clear from the words of this prayer that Mary hears all pleas, but especially those uttered in desperation. I thought I would post it today since it is the Feast of the Immaculate […]

Finding Christmas

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This reflection was from three years ago, but is still very real every Christmas. I’m starting to understand Christmas as the season where Christ comes to visit you in the most unexpected ways. If you can only quiet yourself for a few days–unplug the computer, forget your cell phone, and head to the ICU of […]

The King’s Speech: A Story of Courage

I am reprinting this post from this time last year. In the 2010 Oscar-winning historical film “The King’s Speech,” King George VI (Colin Firth) reluctantly assumes the throne and must overcome his stammer in order to speak with the authority and eloquence expected of a king. He hires Lionel Logue (Geoffrey Rush), an Australian speech […]

There’s Something About Mary

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I think about Mary often this time of year. More than usual, which is a lot.   Mary loves desperate people–the ones who have already tried Jesus and, for whatever reason, didn’t get results. That’s how my mom explained it when she told me that she was going to Mary with my depression. For a […]

Believe Without Seeing

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All the Christmas movies–from the classic “Miracle on 34th Street” to “The Year Without a Santa Claus” preach a common message: faith is about believing without seeing.   In our family favorite, “Elf,” Santa’s sleigh, fueled by Christmas spirit, crashes into Central Park in New York City. In order to convince people to believe in […]

12 Lessons of Depression

Five years ago I almost gave up. After trying 23 medication combinations, 7 psychiatrists, two hospitalization programs, and every form of alternative therapy available–from homeopathic remedies to yoga, I assumed I was one of those unfortunate statistics with treatment-resistant depression, a Humpty-Dumpty type that would never recover from the fall of a nervous breakdown. There […]