Darkness Visible


I am used to issuing tips and advice for persons who suffer from depression. I haven’t really described my own lately, because I thought it would be too painful. But since I’ve had a few good days IN A ROW, let me try to describe it. My biggest fear, at age 42, is that I […]

5 Things To Do When You Feel Insecure


German psychoanalyst Eric Fromm said, “The task we must set for ourselves is not to feel secure, but to be able to tolerate insecurity.” Everyone I have ever known—I take that back—every likeable person I have ever known in this world has admitted to periods of sheer insecurity. They looked at themselves from the perspective […]

How Do You Treat Empty-Nest Depression?

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Several mom friends of mine have lately come down with a bad case of “empty-nest depression”–moms who just dropped off their youngest offspring to college, or moms having difficulty keeping busy now that the youngest is in kindergarten all day. I googled the term “empty-nest depression” to see what I could find on this topic. […]

5 Decisions That Can Make You Happier


Recent happiness studies indicate that popularity, influence, and money do not make people happiest – even as our culture suggests otherwise. Autonomy, life purpose, and relationships are found at the top of the list. In her new book, “The Happiness Choice: The Five Decisions that Take You From Where You Are to Where You Want […]

Women Today: Stressed and Unhappy


It’s a hard time to be a woman these days. We bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan, and feel unappreciated wherever we go, much less the sexy w-o-m-a-n in the Enjoli ad. According to a new survey from the American Psychological Association, women report higher levels of stress at work than […]

Prozac AND Potatoes

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In her national bestseller “Potatoes Not Prozac,” Kathleen DesMaisons offers a seven-step dietary plan for sugar-sensitive people like me. I’ve tried to implement her suggestions into my diet because, as a recovering drunk and depressive, sugar can throw me into an emotional mess that gets downright ugly. A diet rich in fiber and protein is […]

The Gift of Adversity: An Interview with Dr. Norman Rosenthal

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Today I have the privilege of interviewing Dr. Norman Rosenthal, the noted research psychiatrist about his new book, “The Gift of Adversity,” that explores how life’s disappointments anddifficulties provide us with the lessons we need to become better, bigger, and more resilient human beings. As a world-class psychiatrist, what have you found to be the most important tool […]

7 Ways to Let Go of Regret


You let the woman of your dreams get away. You made aparenting mistake that still haunts you. You quit an okay job only to replace it with a lousy one. You cheated a friend. And on and on and on. You want so badly to reverse the clock and do it again … the right way. […]

Throw Away Your Thoughts … Literally


A new study from Ohio State University and the Universidad Autónoma de Madrid in Spain, and published in Psychological Study found that when a person writes an unwanted thought down on paper and throws the paper away, he or she mentally discards the thought. Conversely, when a person writes down a thought and puts the paper in his or […]

Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder

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The following post is the Afterword of the newly released “Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder” by Valerie Porr. I have reprinted it here with permission of Oxford University Press. There are so many misconceptions about this disorder today. A friend of mine, recently diagnosed with BPD, has helped me to understand her illness. I hope this […]