On MLK, Jr. Day: I, Too, Have a Dream

MLK Day.jpgSome of you may recognize my dream, but I like to repost it every now and then to keep it alive and give it legs.

 

In celebration of Martin Luther King, Jr.:

I have a dream that one day I won’t hold my breath every time I tell a person that I suffer from bipolar disorder, that I won’t feel shameful in confessing my mental illness.

I have a dream that people won’t feel the need to applaud me for my courage on writing and speaking publicly about my disease, because the diagnosis of depression and bipolar disorder would be understood no differently than that of diabetes, arthritis, or dementia.

I have a dream that the research into genetics of mood disorders will continue to pinpoint specific genes that may predispose individuals and families to depression and bipolar disorder (like the gene G72/G30, located on chromosome 13q), just as specific genes associated with schizophrenia and obsessive-compulsive disorder have been located and identified.

I have a dream that brain-imaging technology will continue to advance in discovering what, exactly, is going on inside the brain, that a neurological perspective coupled with a biochemical approach to mental illness will develop targeted treatments: new medication and better response to particular medications–that we can cut out that painful trial-and-error process.

I have a dream depressives won’t have to risk their jobs in divulging their condition, that employers will respond more empathetically to the country’s 7.8 million working depressives, that the general public will be more educated on mental illness so that it doesn’t cost this country more than $44 billion each year (like it does now).

I have a dream that families, friends, and co-workers will show kindness to depressives, not reproach them for not being stronger, for not having enough will power and discipline and incentive to get well, for not snapping out of it, for not being grateful enough, for not seeing the cup half full, for not controlling their emotions.

I have a dream that tabloids like “In Touch Weekly” won’t lump allegations of Britney Spears’ taking antidepressants into the same category as her 24-hour marriage, all-night clubbing, and pantyless photos–that our world might be more sophisticated and informed than that.

I have a dream that people will no longer use the following terms to describe persons with mental illness: fruity, loony, wacky, nutty, cuckoo, loopy, crazy, wacko, gonzo, nutso, batty, bonkers, ditzy, bananas, and crazy.

I have a dream that spiritual leaders might preach compassion to persons with mental illness, not indict them for not praying hard enough, or in the right way, or often enough, and that judgmental new-age thinkers who blame all illness on blocked energy (in chakras one through seven) might be enlightened to understand that fish oil, mindfulness meditation, and acupuncture can’t cure everything.

I have a dream that health insurance companies will stop serving Satan, and read a medical report every now and then, where they would learn that depression is a legitimate, organic brain disease, and that those who suffer from it aren’t a bunch of weak, pathetic people who can’t cope with life’s hard knocks.

I dream that one day depression won’t destroy so many marriages and families, that better and faster treatment will work in favor of every form of intimacy.

I have a dream that suicide won’t take more lives than traffic accidents, lung disease, or AIDS, that together we can do better to reduce the 30,000 suicides that happen annually in the United States, and that communities will lovingly embrace those friends and families of persons who ran out of hope, instead of simply ignoring the tragedy or attaching fault where none should be.

I have a dream that one day depression, bipolar disorder, and all kinds of mental illness will lose their stigma, that I won’t have to whisper the word “Zoloft” to the pharmacist at Rite Aid, that people will be able to have loud conversations in coffee shops about how they treat their depression (in addition to the excellent dialogue we have here on “Beyond Blue”).

Mostly, I dream about a day when I can wake up and think about coffee first thing in the morning, rather than my mood–is it a serene one, a panicked one, or somewhere in between?–and fretting about whether or not I’m heading toward the black hole of despair. I dream that I’ll never ever have to go back to that harrowing and lonely place of a year ago. That no one else should have to either. But if they do (or if I do), that they not give up hope. Because eventually their tomorrow will be better than their today. And they will be able to dream again too.

Originally published on Beyond Blue at Beliefnet.com

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14 thoughts on “On MLK, Jr. Day: I, Too, Have a Dream

  1. I’m sure I speak for many, when I say your dream is our dream, as well, Therese! I have nothing but gratefulness for you and the way you care about those of us, out here, who battle this illness everyday….even when you are fighting it, yourself! I applaud you for putting yourself out there, to help others!!

  2. Yes to everything! I also hope someday there are accessible supports with high standards, providing what people need to live well in their own homes with their own families.

  3. Thank you Therese. You are making my dream come true. You are educating people one person at a time about mental illness. Our adult child is still estranged to us. We don’t know if she is getting help or not. We do not know if she is getter better. We as parents are dying a bit at a time.

    We now know of the family Legacy of mental illness. No one discussed mental illness in the family. We always knew someone was stranger than the other. Fought and yelled more. Cussed & accused more. Loved and Hated much more. The voices in there head manipulates & spins stories out of control much more. Has thousands of Facebook but estrange to there own family. All this was swept under the rug instead of getting help. Each estranging person keeps there own silence a secrets. Our daughter is doing exactly the same now.

    My dream & hope she will get the right help.

    Shanti

  4. Oops!

    Thank you Therese. You are making my dream come true. You are educating people one person at a time about mental illness. Our adult child is still estranged to us. We don’t know if she is getting help or not. We do not know if she is getter better. We as parents are dying a bit at a time.

    We now know of the family Legacy of mental illness. No one discussed mental illness in the family. We always knew someone was stranger than the other. Fought and yelled more. Cussed & accused more. Loved and Hated much more. The voices in there head manipulates & spins stories out of control much more. Has thousands of Facebook friends but estrange to there own family! All this was swept under the rug instead of getting help. Each estranging person keeps there own silence & secrets. Our daughter is doing exactly the same now.

    My dream & hope is she get the right help while we are alive.

    Shanti

  5. I am 72 years old and since the age of 15 , I have suffered with OCD and depression. Your beautiful article on “I have a dream is my dream too. Only someone as beautiful and talented as you could articulate the dream and express it with brilliant truth. Thank you so very much for all your writings and openness and vulnerability. You are awesome

  6. Whether it’s reading some of his most inspiring quotes, watching his famous \”I Have a Dream\” speech, tuning in to one of the following MLK television specials, or simply being a beacon for positive and nonviolent change, let’s all make sure his message of love rings true today and every day.

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