Make a Self-Esteem File

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What is a self-esteem file? The first thing that I would grab–okay, after the kids–if our house were to catch on fire: a simple manila folder containing letters I commissioned from folks on why they like me, hang out with me, even admire me. Because I’m not one of those people who can simply look […]

Mother Teresa’s Prayer of Compassion

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This beautiful prayer by Mother Teresa articulates for me what pure compassion looks like. If it were shorter, I’d have it memorized. (But my spiritual hard drive has very little memory–thus, the post-its and clutter around my desk.) Dear Jesus, Help us to spread your fragrance everywhere we go. Flood our souls with your Spirit […]

Tips to Find a Good-Enough Doctor

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Inspired from all the comments she received from my interview with her on chronic illness, Dr. Elvira Aletta compiled some suggestions for finding a good-enough doctor. In her Psych Central post called “Tips to Find a Good-Enough Doctor,” she throws out three basic qualities she looks for in a doctor: Expertise, knowledge, intellectual curiosity and […]

Kahlil Gibran on Pain

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One of my favorite passages on pain is what Kahlil Gibran writes in his classic, “The Prophet”: Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding. Even as the stone of the fruit must break, that its heart may stand in the sun, so must you know pain. And could you keep […]